SUBMITTED BY: HITACHI MAHENDRUWhere do I begin? We’ve all grown up watching movies and readings books about the perfect romances, where despite everything everyone gets their happy ending. We like to believe that each and every person that comes into our lives is going to stay forever and when they leave we beat ourselves up for letting that happen. First we analyze, then we over analyze. We contemplate every situation, ever memory, every conversation just in the hope we figure out what exactly caused it to turn out the way it did. I did too. I cried, I yelled. Lived in denial for months. Hoping that it’ll be fine, believing that love exists. After months of lies and cheating, the truth finally came out. To be honest it killed me a little from inside but then I thought to myself. Thank god he’s gone. I loved him with all I had. Just like any other girl, I was ready to do anything for him, give up anything for him. Little did I know when given a choice the only thing he gave up was me. It broke me. Seeing the person you love choose someone else over you. It makes you feel worthless but only in moments like these do you truly realize what it is that you actually need in life. Do you need someone who took you for granted? Do you need someone who never cared? Do you need someone who’d break you just to save himself some trouble? Everyone deserves more than empty apologies and broken promises. In a generation like ours where people don’t talk about their feelings, you don’t need someone who exploits your vulnerability. I knew people cheated. I knew people lied, little did I know that one can so conveniently destroy the other person without an ounce of remorse. He was my first love. He was all I wanted but I’m glad he got away. He was a self-absorbed, attention-seeking boy. Who sucked the life out of you till he could, then left you to pick up the pieces yourself. After months of pain and false hopes and anxiety, a part of me feels free. A part of me still hurts but I know that’s not going to last long. Memories still come crashing and make me break down from time to time but I know it’s for the best. No one should be anyone’s second priority. We get the love we think we deserve so why settle for someone who isn’t worth a second look. Why long for someone who didn’t think twice about hurting you. First love is the hardest to forget but it teaches you more than any other experience in life does. Keep believing. The right one is just around the corner waiting to save you from all your heartbreaks. So don’t give up. Go party, make wine your best friend, love your friends but most importantly love yourself.
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AUTHOR: ANNONYMUSI have always been different and I'll tell you why. I'm not afraid of the truth. I'm not afraid of being honest and raw and downright brutal with how I choose to hammer words out of my mouth. I'm not afraid to show myself without a designer label, without any coat of sugary bullshit. I'm not afraid to say I'm not ladylike. I'm not afraid to say 'fuck you'. I'm not afraid to stand up for something i believe in. I'm not afraid to show my truth to a world that says, I can't be me. I'm not afraid to say, I will never be anything less than me and if it bothers you, step out of my light. AUTHOR: Graham R WhiteIf a man is truly into you you'll never doubt that you're his priority. Work, texting, friends, (his ex) - none of these things will make you feel like you're second place. Women should trust their intuition on this. There's no such thing as 'kind of into you'. A man connected to his purpose chooses a woman that creates support and synergy for what he's doing with his life so that neither take a back seat to the other. Dating is your opportunity to see what kind of confidence, leadership, focus and planning skills he'll be bringing to the relationship. If he doesn't know how to make you feel like the center of his world while you're dating, he'll do even less in a relationship. Avoid the men who are looking for a woman who can soothe them. Leadership in a relationship means a man contacts you, plans the date, chooses a restaurant and takes care of the details. This is your litmus test, the one that tells you how much you're going to be expected to handle for him if there's a love connection. If you don't feel like the priority it means you're not. Few men will tell you they're not 100% into you and some will flat out lie in order to keep you around simply because they don't want to be alone. How do you know if he's really serious or just a player with great game? His attention and affection doesn't fade over time and it's not contingent on him getting laid. Does he reach out and touch you unconsciously? Is he romantic and attentive without really thinking about it? If you settle for a guy who settled for you until what he's really looking for comes along you're going to feel that every day you're together and be listening to his excuses forever. Men don't need more rope, more chances or more understanding. If he's into you, you won't hear excuses because you'll be swept off your feet every single day because nothing makes the man who loves you happier than seeing a smile on your face. It's easy to see the difference between the women in a relationship with a man who makes her his priority and those who aren't. It's not a fairy tale, it's the possibility for every woman who waits for a man who doesn't just say, "I love you" he shows it in everything he does. We all die. The purpose of life is not to live forever but rather create and participate in something worth remembering... Miss Albania USA give you the opportunity to show the power of your beauty while becoming a role model for years to come. Be part of the change that you want to see in your community!!! For further details please visit our website.. WWW.MISSALBANIAUSA.COM AUTHOR: EVA KOREIn the past few months I have come across a number of single men and women who are confused about the dating scene. A few claim ‘take it as it comes’ works for them. Another group claims ‘boundaries set up front ‘ is more efficient way of landing true loving relationship. However, both groups eventually enter that awkward state in their relationship which occurs after a few dates. The whole ordeal is ruled by uncertainty and they spend a great deal of time talking about their relationship. Typically, a new relationship tends to be scary because you don’t know the person you are dating and its not clear what this relation will bring. Practically, you are investing based on pure faith & hope that this is the right person for you. Of course its risky! Similar to taking $ 5000 out of your saving and investing in stock you don’t know about. If you had some former knowledge of the stock, you most likely would not invest that money on that stock because you know the risk is very high. Yet when it comes to relationships everyone gets pulled in based on liking the person and the desire to get to know them better. Quite often you end up attaching quickly to someone new without knowing enough or if its safe to trust him or her. While the process of truly getting to know someone takes a lifetime, attachments happen quickly. Mostly because people tend to forget that we do have complete control over our actions and choices. On the other side hormones play a role. The thrill of a start. The curiosity of the first kiss…etc. Bingo, easily the intense feeling of spending time with that new person becomes unstoppable. In the meantime the mind is lured by the thrill and you stop thinking clear making decisions that are not quite healthy for a potentially real love relationship. Here are a few tips on how to control your anxiety and start your relationship healthy;
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