AUTHOR: EVA KOREIn the past few months I have come across a number of single men and women who are confused about the dating scene. A few claim ‘take it as it comes’ works for them. Another group claims ‘boundaries set up front ‘ is more efficient way of landing true loving relationship. However, both groups eventually enter that awkward state in their relationship which occurs after a few dates. The whole ordeal is ruled by uncertainty and they spend a great deal of time talking about their relationship. Typically, a new relationship tends to be scary because you don’t know the person you are dating and its not clear what this relation will bring. Practically, you are investing based on pure faith & hope that this is the right person for you. Of course its risky! Similar to taking $ 5000 out of your saving and investing in stock you don’t know about. If you had some former knowledge of the stock, you most likely would not invest that money on that stock because you know the risk is very high. Yet when it comes to relationships everyone gets pulled in based on liking the person and the desire to get to know them better. Quite often you end up attaching quickly to someone new without knowing enough or if its safe to trust him or her. While the process of truly getting to know someone takes a lifetime, attachments happen quickly. Mostly because people tend to forget that we do have complete control over our actions and choices. On the other side hormones play a role. The thrill of a start. The curiosity of the first kiss…etc. Bingo, easily the intense feeling of spending time with that new person becomes unstoppable. In the meantime the mind is lured by the thrill and you stop thinking clear making decisions that are not quite healthy for a potentially real love relationship. Here are a few tips on how to control your anxiety and start your relationship healthy;
No relationships are easy. But it is always up to you to get what you want out of a relationship. There is compromise in new beginnings. Your purpose is to be happy in a loving relationship. © 2016 OPEN HEART SOCIETY. All rights reserved.
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AUTHOR: AHMET MURATIThe wife one day she grabs you, hugs you and then starts to speak to me as she would cry: "You are a very good guy, you keep the cleanness at the best way, you keep your clothes clean, you wash up you teeth & yourself, you cook very good. Everything you do, you do it best. But... [a brief silence] We need to divorce. © 2016 OPEN HEART SOCIETY. All rights reserved.I am NOT difficult to love! I could be an emotional roller coaster with a gripping intensity and unplanned escapes from bittersweet reality. But my love is not just romantic love; its equates to the stubble nuances of the existence of divinity. I skip to my imaginary world every now and than when I am faced with sudden uncomfortable flood of sadness that marks the corners of my sleepless face. In that world no one harms me and love still gives me butterflies. Floods of pure love dance naked in the threads of my veins. Its the world that allows me to make love that involves two bodies merging into one in complete inner desire that can set a continent on fire. Yes, I visit my imaginary world often. Its safe there. YOU love me there. The rest of the world dont matter there. YOU protect me with YOUR fingertips like feathers on my skin there. Why wouldn't I want to visit this world of stillness filled with love?!!! It feels real, closure without distance that marks boundaries of my flesh. I am gripped with the realization that I have bigger purpose in life beyond my love for you. You my be the center of my Universe but I am the Whole Universe. I have lives to change. Places to go. Love to make. Without letting one person who discarded me like trash acquire the proportions of my dignity and self worth. My home is the tears that rolls out of my eyes every time I know I changed someones life. My home is fireworks in my thighs at deep conversations that contains respect. My home is the world of eternal possibilities of divine love that never escapes in the middle of the night. Yes I know I am different from all you ever seen in your entire life. Thats where my beauty lies. The colossal storm of this disgusting society, YOU with outdated mentality and lack of empathy destroyed my home and all the parts of me that pumped blood in my veins yet here I stand taller than ever, all wholeheartedly to leave a mark, a legacy no woman ever did in the name of love and integrity. I will speak my truth of how I was stripped out of my youthful options. How I crawled the avenues of New York city for YOU. I will raise my voice to overcome the numbness build inside me consuming the light that love expands. I will rip off with my teeth the ropes of shame that was put in me and my fortress will be unshakable because My heart now has reached the TRUTH. I will climb and explore the parallel universes in my eyes, supplying my veins and arteries with your life blood, like a warrior without a sword with my heart clawed up your insides. I am sorry for not becoming what the world wanted me to be - for making a show of my forbidden and terrifying parts. I am sorry for loving YOU so much wanting to chase the rainbows and rays of sunshine. I am sorry for spending the night counting stars and naming them after you. I am sorry for making the moon give me strength to go another day with a heart full of love saved just for YOU. I am sorry for not needing maps to know where I meed to be. I am sorry for believing in YOU. I am sorry for being more selective than the average woman, for my time to be dedicated to the love that dripped sensation in my blood. I am sorry for my perpetual beauty that identified my abstraction of this reality. I am sorry FOR BEING way bigger than your box can fit. I am sorry for turning the world upside down to diminish every single negative you had. I am sorry for making a habit of lighting candles in hopes your health got better. I am sorry for trying so hard to become the woman you couldn't possibly deserve. I AM SORRY, BECAUSE I AM NOT SORRY AT ALL. My name-the name of my family that accepted with dignity every bit of chaos thrown at them will overcome the colossal damage with pride and heads high. We are survivors but above all we are incredibly outstanding humans of this earth. We are those that know love, respect love, becomes love! This family name will not be dragged down by the dirty mouths of the cowards. Our pain will fade one day. The shame will horrify the empty souls of the devoured monsters with shallow insecure futures who attempted to lower the value of our existence. The poison, the evil, the spilling of their disgust are the last destruction ever heard. The loud love of my pure heart will empty and disarm the echoes of dissatisfied silent shouts inside my chest. Love Prevails. I am the superlative version a smooth sailing journey that need no life jacket because my boat does not sink. Love Prevail All Evils. I am a creator. I am love. I am light. I am a survivor. I am greatness. I am all that I ever intended to be. Our story was not a cliche. It was the grandiose destination to set the world on fire with its bond and strength that only ancient gods knew it was possible. It was us against the world until it became us against each other pulling the elastic bands back and fourth smacking each other in the face. Yes, I will miss our battlefield without swords yet my home is where real hearts are- the hearts that dont break the bonds of love and friendship. Confining a pure heart into a dark secret and forgetting the key is the never judgment for less powerful than myself. I am not to be confined in cages of dark alleys. The scream of fundamental voice will be heard in every corner of the continent because I dare to live without the chains of secret darkness. I am Light. I am LOVE. The emptiness & sorrow of today are and will be the mark of my legacy tomorrow! Now & for eternity! Every single day I will write an open letter to the world subjecting my heart and soul to all cruelties until I am filled only with light and the dark corners do not exist any longer. At my expense and subjection the world will find meaning of inspiration. PEN NAME: -COBRA- © 2016 OPEN HEART SOCIETY. All rights reserved.As a slight breeze of air caresses my hair, I remembered our first valentine. It was the day before, but he had made up this surprisingly perfect gift for me. We had just meet a week ago and I wasn't expecting anything. That night we had dinner talking and enjoying the company of each other as if we had been lovers for eternities. At the end of the night about a minute after midnight, just like that he gives me a gift. A perfectly wrapped gold bracelet swirling around butterfly perfume and lotions. The gratitude and excitement in my eyes could be seen a mile away. It probably warmed his heart seeing that he was able to gift me such happiness. We had made love but the intimacy of that moment was striking powerful. He had thought of me. In that moment alone I knew that my heart was skipping beats and so was his. We both wanted to say I love you to each other yet it was beyond logic. I smelled like that butterfly perfume for a year. Saved it mostly for when together. It was sweet with a touch of spice, easy on my skin and perfect blend with my own natural scent. Every tree was greener. The moon shone brighter. The sky was bluer. The air carried his scent. I was madly in love. 16 years later.... I still look at his face and my heart skips beats even faster and more intensely but now i can easy say I love you without being afraid. And that, is the meaning of life. This love. This experience. This power. -ANONYMOUS- © 2016 OPEN HEART SOCIETY. All rights reserved.Dear Broken Heart,I know it has been a long and tiring toad for both of us, but hang in there, we finally mending and times are near. It has taken a lot of trial and error and you have never let me down. Time and time again you take all than you can and continue to give all that you have. Many have come with lies and deceit, making promises they never intended to keep. Still, you continue to love. Every time I have fallen, you have been there to pick me back up. When I dropped on the floor and thought I couldn't, you told me that I could. When no one loved me, it was you who reminded me that I WAS LOVE. I am sorry that I have been unable to deliver the kind of everlasting love that you give, but know that I wont give up until I DO. Your patience is beyond compare. Your trust is unfailing. Your strength is something only few will be able to comprehend. No matter beaten and abused, you remain the loving gigantic light that refuses to douse its flame. In fact, now, in our worse days is when I noticed your light the brightest. Pushing your rays of hope and love through the darkest of moments, you have brought me through those times when all I wanted to do is give up. I know that there is love out there, somewhere, in this world that matches our own. Until we find that love, I promise to protect you from those who wish to do us more harm. I promise I wont give up the search until the universe takes my last breath. YOU ARE WORTH ALL THE LOVE I CAN FIND TO GIVE. Yours truly, ANONYMOUS © 2016 OPEN HEART SOCIETY. All rights reserved. |
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